post written by: Marc Chernoff
TODAY is the first day of the rest of your life. The road ahead is wide open. You CAN be happy again!But first, you have to give up…Giving up doesn’t always mean you’re weak; sometimes it simply means you are strong enough and smart enough to let go.
- Choosing to do nothing. – You don’t get to choose how you are going to die, or when. You can only decide how you are going to live, right now. Every day is a new chance to choose. Choose to change your perspective. Choose to flip the switch in your mind from negative to positive. Choose to turn on the light and stop fretting about with insecurity and doubt. Choose to do work that you are proud of. Choose to see the best in others, and to show your best to others. Choose to truly LIVE your life, right now.
- The excuses you keep reciting to yourself. – Sooner
or later you will come to realize that it’s not what you lose along the
way that counts; it’s what you do with what you still have. When you
let go, forgive, and move on, you in no way change the past, you change
the future. (Read The Power of Now
.)
- Avoiding the reality of the present. – You can’t change what you refuse to confront. You can’t find peace by avoiding it. Deal with problems before they deal with your happiness. Don’t let a hard lesson harden your heart. Remember, life’s best lessons are usually learned at the worst times and from the worst mistakes. When you lose something, don’t think of it as a loss; accept it as a gift that will get you on the path you were meant to travel all along. Thank your past for all the lessons, and move on. Say it: “Dear past, thank you for the lessons and wisdom. Dear future, I’m ready for you!”
- Over-thinking and worrying about everything. – When your fears have you looking too deep into things, it creates problems, it doesn’t fix them. If you think and you think and you think, you will think yourself right out of happiness a thousand times over, and never once into it. Worrying doesn’t take away tomorrow’s troubles, it takes away today’s peace and potential. Stop over-thinking everything. Life is too short.
- Who you once were in the past. – Find the balance that allows you to be who you truly are. Your worst battle is between what you know and what you feel. One of the hardest decisions you will ever have to make is when to stay put and try harder or when to just take your memories and move on. Sometimes you have to step outside of the person you’ve been, and remember the person you were meant to be, the person you are capable of being, and the person you truly are.
- Resistance to necessary growing pains. – Remember, we can’t become what we need to be by remaining exactly what we are. Life is change, but growth is optional. Choose wisely. When we lose ourselves in the things we love, we find ourselves there too. So if you are passionate about something, pursue it. Stretch yourself. You will know you’re on the right track in life when you become completely uninterested in looking back, and eager to take the next step.
- Doubting your own faith and courage. – You can be comfortable or courageous, but you cannot be both. By taking a leap of faith, you find out who you are truly capable of becoming. Faith sees the invisible, feels the intangible, and achieves the impossible; it’s about believing when it’s beyond the power of reason to believe. And courage is being scared to death, and then taking the next step anyway. May you always find the faith and courage to do what you are afraid to do.
- Thinking you don’t have what it takes. – Nobody is going to blindside you and hit you as hard as life will. Sometimes life will beat you to the ground, and keep you there if you let it. But it’s not about how hard life can hit you; it’s about how hard you can be hit while continuing to move forward. That’s what true strength is. And that’s what winning the game of life is all about.
- Overlooking everything that’s wonderful. – Do your best and surrender the rest. When you stay stuck in regret of the life you think you should have had, you end up missing the beauty of what you do have. You will have a hard time ever being happy if you aren’t thankful for the good things in your life right now.
- Pessimism and negative self-talk. – Talking about our problems is our greatest addiction. Break this negative habit. Talk about your joys, your loves, and your dreams instead. What you see in life often depends entirely on what you’re looking for. In the end, it’s not what you say, it’s how you say it. It’s not what you do, it’s how you do it. It’s not what you see, it’s how you look at it. It’s not how your life is, it’s how you live it.
- Excessive pride. – Get out of your own way. Stop judging everyone and everything. Pride is one of the greatest enemies to your happiness and growth. Open your mind before you open your mouth. Don’t hate what you don’t know. The mind is like a parachute; it doesn’t work when it’s closed. Or as C.S. Lewis so profoundly put it, “A proud person is always looking down on things and other people; and, of course, as long as you are looking down, you cannot see something beautiful that is above you.”
- Not giving the people around you a chance. – Life is a tapestry of people weaving in and out of your life, people come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Everyone has something to offer and share with you. Imagine treating every person you encounter, no matter how fleeting, as an intriguing story waiting to be told. But the story can only be told if someone asks to hear it. Will you ask? That person you see standing before you, no matter who they are, young or old, rich or poor, angry or kind, is like a blockbuster movie ready to enthrall you. But, first you have to buy a ticket.
- Comparing yourself to everyone else. – Sometimes
the reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our
behind-the-scenes circumstances with everyone else’s public highlight
reel. Give it up. Don’t compare your Chapter 1 to someone else’s
Chapter 15. Follow your own path, write your own life story, and never
give up on yourself. Remember this: Happiness formula = Do YOUR best
and feel good about it. | Unhappiness formula = Compare yourself to
everyone else. (Read The Happiness Trap
.)
- Letting the judgments of others control your life. – People know your name, not your story. They’ve heard what you’ve done, but not what you’ve been through. So take their opinions of you with a grain of salt. In the end, it’s not what others think, it’s what you think about yourself that counts. Sometimes you have to do exactly what’s best for you and your life, not what’s best for everyone else.
- Procrastinating and senselessly wasting time. – Remember, you are the customer of a bank called Time. Every morning it credits you with 86,400 seconds. Every night it writes off, as a loss, whatever remainder you have failed to invest to good purpose. It carries over no balance. It allows no overdraft. Each day it opens a new account for you with the same deposit of 86,400 seconds. Each night it burns the remains of the day. If you fail to use the day’s deposits, the loss is yours. There is no going back. There is no drawing against the tomorrow. You must live in the present on today’s deposits only. Invest it so as to get from it the utmost in health, happiness, and success. You’re making withdrawals right this second; make them count.
As you know, when you stop doing the wrong things, you give the right things a chance to start. So what’s one habit or thought pattern that has been making you unhappy? What can you do today to give it up? Leave a comment below and let us know.
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